Welcome to the Fatherhood blog.

This site is not meant to be a guidebook on how a man should raise his daughter, and I’m not professing that I’m any kind of expert in the field. Far from it.

I am simply a father who realizes just how profoundly that having a daughter has affected my own life, and how raising her has shaped me into the man I am today. I’m a father who every day is amazed by the way having a girl has changed my life—as a father and as a man.

I can’t tell you how having a child might change your life. I can only share what it has meant to me. It’s been joy, it’s been fear. There were times when I questioned my ability, and myself but I never questioned the love I had for my girl.

Any man who has a child will probably agree with me, raising children can be the scariest, most rewarding experience in the world. They will amaze you, they will confuse you, they will bring you wonder, and they may even break your heart—sometimes all at once.

I know now, that there is no rulebook to fatherhood, but it also isn’t anything a man needs to go through alone. I hope that by creating this place where I can share my thoughts, my experiences, my struggles and my joy, it may offer some help to other men who are out there raising children of their own.

So welcome one and all. I hope you enjoy.

About Kevin Patrick

I was born and reared in Oakland, California. I attended Skyline High School and King Jr. High. I started playing golf when I was twelve years old and fell in love with the game. I attended Grambling State University on a golf scholarship and majored in Computer Science. I’ve been working in the IT field since I graduated from college.

Soon after college, I married my college sweetheart and landed a job at a well-known software company. We moved to Boulder, Colorado and started a new chapter. A few years later we’d be blessed with a daughter. Wow!

When I first laid eyes on our daughter, Asha, I knew the game had changed when our eyes locked. Immediately I knew I was experiencing a new kind of love. It took me by surprise because I had no clue this type of love existed.

Two months later, I had a car accident where I was paralyzed. You can only imagine this change. It felt like my world had stopped. But I had a solid reminder that it was still moving from my wife, Carla, and Asha.

OK Kev, what are you going to do? Sink or swim? I understood this was not a dream. This was the real deal. I told myself, “let’s ride!” There’s too much at stake to falter. They’re depending on you and for this task I was built.